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Showing posts with label The PURSE-onality Challenge. Show all posts

FYI: Changes & a New Challenge! (+ Book Give-Away)


When I invited women to join me on “31 days of replacing ‘baditude’ with God’s Word and gratitude” almost a year ago, I had no clue.

I had no clue what I was doing.  

I hadn’t developed the materials. I hadn’t written any of the blog posts. I had never been part of an online study. I didn’t know about any of the automated tools available for distributing files. I just put out the word and hoped a few women might join me.

I had no clue what God would do.

He knew that I wasn’t the only woman who struggles with “baditude”.  With an inner Anxiety Girl.  With perfectionism.  With control.  With meddling. With fear. With grief. 

I had no clue that God would bring me you.

Every time I check Feedburner, I think, “All these women are actually opening and reading my blog posts?” I am astonished...and I rejoice. 

Every time I read a comment or e-mail, I think, “She took the time to respond?” I am amazed...and I give thanks.

 A year ago, I had no voice. 

Oh, I had a cacophony of internal dialogue, much of it unhealthy, some downright toxic. My heart swelled with questions and ideas and thoughts, but the words rarely flowed. 

You listened and conversed and challenged until my heart words developed a rhythm.  Sometimes steady, sometimes weak, but I feel the beat. 

Now, I have Post-It pads and pencils on my night stand, bathroom counter, and quiet time table for the Holy Spirit sparks (ideas) that come throughout the day.  (Two in the last five minutes!)  My “future blog posts” binder is bursting with hundreds of seedlings waiting to be written to full bloom. 

I still have no clue.  

When I sat down 20 minutes ago to write this blog post, I thought I was going to tell you all about some upcoming changes and a new challenge.

But clearly, what God wants me to do is say, “Thank you!” 

You will never know, this side of heaven, the blessing you are to me. The privilege it is to hit “publish” and know that you are waiting on the other end of the Internet to receive what God is saying to us both. 

So from a heart of timid but learning-to-trust love: 

Thank you. Thank you!  THANK YOU!!!

In His Delight,













P.S.  Changes:  

1.  I hope this will be the last blog post I send via Feedburner. You should receive the next one via MailChimp.  If you don’t get anything by Tuesday, March 12, drop me an e-mail at cheri@cherigregory.com or go to Subscribe to Cheri’s Blog to sign up!

2.  I am dropping the name “The PURSE-onality Challenge” because everyone who knows anything about marketing tells me it was the worst idea in the history of the world. Everything will come simply from “Cheri Gregory” from now on. 

3.  I'll be closing my Blogspot blog (www.PURSEonalityChallenge.comin a few weeks, but not until everything is transferred lock-stock-and-barrel to my new sote. In April, I'll be hosting a HUGE "Welcome to My Website" party with tons of great give-aways...but feel free to come on over to www.CheriGregory.com any time!  


P.S.S.  A New Challenge:

No dates or details quite yet, but here’s a sneak peak at the video announcement http://youtu.be/xW71YVw0Gbk




P.S.S.S.  This Week's Book Give-Away


Sunday night, March 10th, I'm giving away a copy of Holley Gerth's new book You're Made for a God-Sized Dream. To enter, simply leave a comment here on the blog!

Day 1: LOVED (+ 2 Vital Questions to Ask NOW)


Each day during The PURSE-onality Challenge: "A Holiday-Ready Heart" in October, Untangling Christmas by Karen Ehman and LeAnn Rice, will be our give-away prize!  

Enter via the Rafflecopter at the end of the blog post or click here to enter!




The “Ideal” Christmas

Imagine your ideal Christmas Day:  

  • Who would be with you? 
  • What would you do? 
  • How would things look? smell? taste? sound? feel?
  • What "one thing" would be required to make it the ideal Christmas Day for you?

My "one thing" is laughter. 

Forget the decor, the food, the gifts (unless they’re gag gifts!) 

For me, sitting around sharing stories, telling jokes, and laughing our fool heads off is the most important thing that happens on Christmas Day.

But that’s just me. 

I’m a Sanguine PURSE-onality, and my primary goal in life is to have fun.

For my Melancholy mother and husband, their ideal Christmas Day centers on perfection.

My Choleric daughter and aunt’s ideal Christmas Day involves control.

My Phlegmatic son’s “one thing” is peace.

We each have “one thing” we need, above all else, to have the ideal Christmas Day.



Holiday Expectations

Advertisers play on our “one thing,” luring us into believing that if we spend money on this decoration, this gift, this event, then this Christmas will be the one when…

When what?

  • When that hyper-critical relative suddenly says something positive?
  • When we go to the closet, easily pick out an outfit, slip into it, and feel fabulous?
  • When the spouse one who hates gift shopping finally surprises us the “perfect present”?
  • When the house magically de-clutters, cleans, and decorates itself?

It’s so tempting to fall into “this Christmas…” thinking. 

Which is nothing but a set up.

Expecting Christmas to meet my PURSE-onality needs is a set-up for disappointment. 


Holiday Disappointment

When I take a so that approach to any aspect of the holidays, I’m guaranteed to be disappointed.

  • I need lots of attention at the party so that I’ll have fun. (But fun fades.)
  • I need my house properly decorated so that I’ll feel that everything is perfect. (But perfection gets spoiled.)
  • I need to get everything done efficiently so that I can feel in control. (But control is just an illusion.)
  • I need to keep everyone happy so that I can feel at peace. (But peace only lasts so long.

The holidays are NOT about me getting my needs met.

No day or season can meet my needs.

I can not get from the holidays anything I do not take with me going into them.

(In fact, the needier I am going into the holiday season, the more disappointed I’m going to be by the end!)


Holidays Are About Giving

The “one thing” we each need, above all else, is LOVE.

All of our “this Christmas…” thinking?

We’re chasing love.

All of our so that trying?

We’re chasing love.

We’re chasing love when we could be celebrating the day that Love came to us!

Love came to us.

"Even before He made the world, 
God loved us and chose us in Christ 
to be holy and without fault in his eyes.” 
Ephesians 1:4

We are loved.

We don’t need to go chasing after love during the holiday season. 

We don't need to do anything so that we will be loved.

We celebrate because we are loved!

And instead of needing to get that “one thing,” we can each contribute the “one thing” that’s so important to us. 

Sanguines can contribute fun.

Melancholies perfection.

Cholerics control.

Phelgmatics peace.

Not so that...

...but because: 

we. are. loved.


2 Vital Questions to Ask NOW

Now would be a great time to discuss this question with family members and friends to see what similarities and differences show up! 

1.  What are my expectations of the ________ holiday? (Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year, etc.)

2.  What is my "one thing"?


Your Turn!

  • Which of your expectations do you want to re-evaluate this year?
  • How do your family members' expectations differ from yours?
  • What's your "one thing"?  How does it differ from your family members'?
  • Anything else on your heart?



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How It Works (via Bullet Points & Videos!)

This week's give-away is for The Best Christmas Pageant Ever. (It's a Gregory Family tradition to have Daniel read this aloud to us every Christmas Eve...and for him to choke up at the end!)  3 names will be drawn -- enter via the Rafflecopter at the end of the blog post or click here to enter!

Each day in October, Untangling Christmas by Karen Ehman and LeAnn Rice, will be our give-away prize! 


“Why is it that the holidays string us out and knot us up?  This sparkling little book easily and happily untangles it all — so you can do what you really want with the holidays: Tie heart strings.”


Ann Voskamp – author of the New York Times Bestseller, One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are


“Reading Untangling Christmas is a better tonic for holiday stress than spiked eggnog! My racing mind took a yuletide break by the fire, my breath slowed down and inhaled the distinct aromas of the season, and my blood pressure thought I was lying on the beach in the middle of summer. If you’re looking for a fun-filled, guilt-free, memory-making, stress-less Christmas…Karen and LeAnn have written the book for you!”

Lisa Whelchel – author of Creative Correction and “The ADVENTure of Christmas”
* * * * * 

I sat down to record a short video to walk us through the steps of The PURSE-onality Challenge "A Holiday-Ready Heart".

Almost 20 minutes later I realized that I failed to make a "short" video!

So, I edited it down to 8 bite-sized segments. Here they are, along with the main points as bullets:

Part 1: Integrated vs. Complicated? + Blog Comments


  • I love pulling several concepts together and integrating them.
  • Others might find this too complicated; do what works for you!
  • I've scheduled time to respond to blog comments and e-mails (which I failed to do in May).


Part 2:  John 15:9-17 and "A Holiday-Ready Heart"

  • In order to be "A woman whose love protects" I must remain in Christ's love
  • Remaining in His love results in joy
  • "A Holiday-Ready Heart" is one that loves others

Part 3:  Using the Bracelet

  • Move the bracelet when ever my thinking needs to shift
  • Change wrists for: Complaining, Criticizing, Gossipping, and using Sarcasm...any "baditude" that keeps me from being "a woman whose love protects"
  • Switch from an "if it bleeds it leads" headline to a thanks-giving headline


Part 4:  Using the 31 Bible Verse Cards

  • Keep the verse of the day nearby -- ready when I need it!
  • Interrupt "baditude" with God's word.
  • Replace "baditude" with God's word.
  • Pausing to focus on God's word makes a huge difference!

Part 5:  "Let's Get PURSE-onal!"

  • This is my message on the four "PURSE-onality" types.
  • You'll understand your basic PURSE-onality needs and the needs of those you love and work with.
  • You'll understand how to better get your own needs met.
  • You'll understand how to adjust your expectations and approaches to others.
  • You'll learn to focus on others' strengths.


Part 6:  The Journal & "Gift Card"


  • Journal invites me to Pause, Pray, Perceive, and Praise
  • Journal reminds me to focus on the strengths of others when "baditude" tempts me to focus only on their weaknesses
  • Journal gives me a place to physically write my prayers, remind myself to seek strengths, and list gratitude
  • "Gift card" is a quick reminder of the strengths of each PURSE-onality


Part 7:  Walking Thru a Real-Life Example

  • Step 1: I become annoyed at Daniel. 
  • Step 2: I switch the bracelet.
  • Step 3: I interrupt my "baditude" with a Bible verse card and replace it with God's word.
  • Step 4: I redirect my thoughts toward appreciating Daniel's strengths via the "gift card."
  • Step 5: I reinforce my gratitude by writing in my journal--I pray for Daniel, I set myself up to seek his strengths, and I put my appreciation of him into words.
  • Changing my mind changes my feelings!


Part 8:  Deciding What Works for You

  • Does doing everything together sound wonderfully integrated?  Great!  Try it and enjoy it!
  • Does doing everything together sound overwhelming? Then only do what you feel led to do!
  • Maybe it's just wearing the bracelet to increase your awareness of "baditude"
  • Maybe it's making your own set of Bible verse cards to get God's word into your mind and heart.
  • Maybe it's listening to "Let's Get PURSE-onal!" and applying that information to your relationships.
  • Maybe it's writing in the journal to focus on Pausing, Praying, Perceiving, and Praising.
  • Maybe it's using the "gift card" and watching for the strengths of the people you interact with.
  • I can't control what will happen in November and December.
  • I can be intentional about pray-paring my heart now. 
  • I will  be a woman whose love protects when I am abiding in His love.
  • I will celebrate Jesus' birth with joy when I am abiding in His love!

Parts 1-8 All Together



Your Turn
  • Any questions?
  • Any suggestions?
  • Anything else on your heart!


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Gearing Up for "A Holiday-Ready Heart"!


Maybe November and December are your two favorite months of the year.

Perhaps preparing for, living through, and cleaning up after the holidays doesn't phase you in the least.

You may have your Christmas shopping all done, your cards ready to mail, and your thanksgiving menu completely planned.

If these are true for you, then The PURSE-onality Challenge holiday edition is not designed for you. (But please join us anyhow and give us your best advice!)

However, if you...
  • dread dragging out the holiday decorations...
  • wonder how what should be "the best of times" all too often often ends up being "the worst of times"...
  • wish you could hibernate from October 30 'til January 1...
  • become overwhelmed by the commercialized chaos that tries to overtake your life in December...
  • cringe just thinking about spending yet another holiday with certain people...
  • feel like a failure because you never seem able to do everything "just right" for the holidays...
  • have an over-full calendar already (and the invitations haven't even started coming!)
  • wonder how on earth you're going to afford everything this season...
  • miss loved ones more than ever during the holidays...
  • want to focus on the real reason for the season...

...then I hope you'll join us in October for "A Holiday-Ready Heart"!



Each day during October, we'll examine an issue that often triggers holiday "baditude." And we'll plan ahead to focus, instead, on God's word and gratitude when Thanksgiving and Christmas roll around this year.



For some, this may take just a slight tweak. For many though, this will require a serious overhaul of how we approach the holidays with our hearts.



Join us for 31 days of intentionally pray-paring for the most peace-full, joyous, family-focused, meaning-filled holy-days we can possibly have!


As we gear up toward our Warm-Up Week September 24-30, you're welcome to:

___  Subscribe to The PURSE-onality Challenge

___  Get familiar with The PURSE-onality Challenge concept

___  Go thru the Pre-Challenge Checklist

___  Listen to "Let's Get PURSE-onal!


Your Turn:
  • How do you feel about the upcoming holidays this year?  
  • What are your favorite parts of the holidays?
  • What are your least favorite parts of the holidays?
  • Anything else on your heart!