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Day 27: GUARD (How Obedience Brings Peace)


Each day during The PURSE-onality Challenge: "A Holiday-Ready Heart" in October, Untangling Christmas by Karen Ehman and LeAnn Rice, will be our give-away prize!  

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Day 14: TRUST (+ How Each PURSE-onality Can Get Day Overwhelmed)
Day 15: PATIENT (+ Practicing Now for Patience Then)
Day 16: NO RECORD (+ How to Have Grudge-Free Holidays)
Day 17: TRUTH (Each PURSE-onality's Take on Truth)
Day 18: PERSEVERE (+2 Cures for Procrastination)
Day 19: BLESS (Your Feelings Can Help You Choose)
Day 20: BUILDING (20+ Ways to Build with Words)
Day 21: HOLD (Hold Back, Let Go, and Step Up)
Day 22: FRUIT (I Didn't Think...I Was a People-Pleaser!)
Day 23: CLEANSE (A Holiday-Ready Home)
Day 24: REJOICE (We Share the Same Heart Rate) 
Day 25: NEAR ("Everything Else" or Emmanuel?)
Day 26: THANKSGIVING (5 Ideas for Daily Thanks-Living)


My #1 holiday issue is food.

 Well, it’s not food, per se.

 It’s more like my massive insecurities about other people's actions -- and especially their reactions to me -- which trigger an unconscious dash to the frig.




Or perhaps my oh-so-special ability to go from all together to completely unraveled in 10 seconds or less, which sends me ransacking cupboards for something sweet to sooth me or crunchy to chomp on.

Or even my freefall from high expectations to dismal disappointment -- usually with myself, but frequently with those close to me -- which ends up with an ice cream carton in one hand and a large spoon in the other.


Okay, so clearly my #1 holiday issue is the condition of my heart. 

The condition of my heart is revealed in how I relate to food.

And holidays are -- of course! -- ALL. about. food.


Nothing but God Gives Peace

Our women’s group is wrapping up our study of Lysa TerKeurst’s Made to Crave. 

I’ve been repeating one of Lysa’s go-to scripts:

“My weight loss goal is peace.”

It’s making a difference.

As I reach for the unopened package of Ghirardelli semi-sweet chocolate chips because I have such a huge stack of grading and (obviously!) deserve some sweetness in my life, I remember:

My weight loss goal is peace.

Will the chocolate chips give me peace?

No matter how delicious chocolate (especially Ghirardelli!) may taste momentarily, it has never once given me lasting
peace.

 Only God offers -- and delivers -- lasting peace:


And the peace of God, 
which transcends all understanding, 
will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. 
Philippians 4:7 (NIV)


Never Negotiate with a Terrorist

Another line that’s sticking with me comes from Karen Ehman:

“Define your week by obedience, not by a number on the scale.”

Remember my “10 minutes on the elliptical” concept just a short week ago?

Well.

This morning, I couldn’t seem to muster up the energy for even 10 minutes.

So I dinked around on the computer, internally building my case for why I didn’t really need to spend 10 minutes on the elliptical.
  • I don’t want to become legalistic. 
  • It’s good to take a break now and then. 
  • Being spontaneous is a part of becoming less rigid and controling.

I lost 30 perfectly good minutes arguing with myself about spending 10 minutes on the elliptical.

30 exhausting minutes.

30 desperate, draining, demoralizing minutes.

Finally, frustrated beyond belief with my hard-hearted self, I marched out the elliptical, trotted in place for 15 minutes, and hit the shower.

What was all that about?


I allowed myself to get drawn into negotiations with a terrorist: 

Disobedience. 

The issue wasn’t exercise.

The issue was my willingness to start discussing something that God’s convicted me is an area of no compromise.

 No compromise.

 No discussion.

 Just obedience.


Making My List (and Checkin’ it Twice!)

When I obey, the peace of God -- which transcends all human understanding (and all brands of chocolate!) -- guards my heart and my mind.
  • My insecurities dwindle.
  • I unravel less.
  • I expect less and hope more.

So I’m pray-paring my holiday “Guard My Heart and Mind” list.

I hesitate to share what’s on it, because the point isn’t the specifics. The point is responding as God convicts me. 

Since my major issues involve food, my list is likely to include some foods I’m going avoid -- out of obedience, not restriction or punishment -- until January. 

From years of experience, I know it'll be better to simply say, “No thank you!” rather than start negotiating when, where, how much, why not, what now, might as well have more, etc., etc., etc.

But my list won't just be about food.

Sarcasm is going to make my list...the harsh, cutting, defensive kind that I use to keep others at a distance.

Staying up too late will definitely make my list...the useless, time-wasting, just-one-more-little-thing which turns into oh-my-how-did-I-just-lose-2-hours and I’m-going-to-feel-like-garbage-at-5:30 AM kind of staying up too late.


This isn't about limitations. Rules. Don'ts.

 It's about guarding my heart and mind.

 Deciding now not to negotiate with the terrorist then.


 Anticipating the peace that obedience brings.



Pray-Paring for the Best Christmas Ever

My holiday goal this year: 
peace.

Each day defined by
obedience.

With God on guard-duty 
over my heart and my mind,

My focus: 
thanks-living for the gift of Jesus.


Your Turn:
  • What is your holiday goal for this year?  
  • By what measure will you define your holy-days? 
  • What focus do you want for the holidays? 
  • Anything else on your heart!


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Day 27: GUARD


Our Give-Away for Today!


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Wow!
I'll say it backwards: !woW
I am blown away by the comments to yesterday’s blog! I came so, so, so close to not sharing my Anxiety Girl stuff. 
I was afraid it would be the last straw, proving that I’m too much of a mess to be worth reading or hearing or “hanging out with” online.
Turns out, there's a busload of us looking longingly at the “promised land” of contentment. We’re willing to move forward. But our internal GPSs are stuck on “recalculating route.”
“Normal girls (or even "normal people") just don't get that you can't twinkle your nose and leave where you're at and join them!”
“I want to be calm and peaceful, there is a tangle in my wiring and I don't know how to get to contentment. I need the roadmap and a hand to hold along the way doesn't hurt either :)” 
I’m Just Saying...
I finally understand why none of the ideas on yesterday’s “Just…” list have ever helped me move from Anxiety to Contentment.
As soon as someone says, “Just…” I know that they have never walked through my particular fire. If they had, they would know better than to use the phrase “Just…”! 
And if they haven’t, their advice is likely to be well-intentioned but impractical. They can’t do just-ice to my situation.
What I need is someone who says, “I know exactly how you feel. When I was where you’re at right now, I felt the same way. And looking back, the steps that helped me make progress are…”
Oh, then I am all ears!
100 Thankfuls
“my very first thought and comment (out loud) was, ‘Oh my goodness... I don't think I could even get to 10, let alone 100.’ My Husband responded with, ‘It's all about perspective. Not to mention, you need to change your bracelet because that was a negative comment.’ Urgh.”
“This year I chose the word grateful as my one word to focus on for the year. I'm choosing to find things to be grateful every day even if it's raining all day. I'm trying to let go and let God.” 
If you’ve ever tried to brainstorm a list of 100 before, you know that you may (or may not!) get off to a fast start. But somewhere around 20 or 30, things slow down. 
Around 60 or 70, surprises start showing up. By 80 and 90, new ground is being broken.
It’s so worth the effort and the time to get to 100 (and beyond!)
In Every Situation
“I do think praying and focusing on the good things helps but you have to do this constantly throughout the day and that is quite difficult!” 
Preach on, sister!
Perhaps this is why we are urged to “pray without ceasing.”
Reading this verse in context, we see familiar themes come together in a familiar list:
“Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18)
Anxiety: Such a Shame

I’m doing some research on shame, a root of anxiety. One author personifies shame this way:
“Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped round it–it can’t survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy. The most dangerous thing to do after a shaming experience is hide or buy our story. When we bury our story, the shame metastasizes.” (Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection)
Brown goes on to say that the best thing to do when shame hits “feels totally counterintuitive: Practice courage and reach out! We have to own our story and share it with someone who has earned the right to hear it, someone whom we can count on to respond with compassion.” 
She lists and discusses the kinds of people with whom I should not tell my stories. With pretty much every person in my life disqualified from helping me out of my shame, I was discouraged.

Reaching (for) Peace
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Then I remembered an epiphany I'd had about complaining: When it comes to people, I have to be very careful about talking only to the right person, at the right time, in the right manner in order to avoid complaining. 
But when it comes to God, I don’t have to worry about such boundaries. He’s always the “right person”! Right now is always the right time for Him. And it’s not called complaining when I’m talking to God–it’s called prayer!
The same thing is true for shame. When I feel shame coming on, the only One who is always safe to share with is God. 
God will not

  • absorb my shame (to the point I have to make Him feel better)
  • pity me 
  • fall apart with disappointment
  • scold or blame
  • insist I’m exaggerating (“It can’t have been that bad” when it really was!)
  • one-up me
Guard My Heart
Far too often, I leave my heart unguarded. 
Anxiety Girl dons her cape. She throws herself into throngs of people, heart bared to receive their approval or rejection, basing her worth on other’s reactions.
I used to get an adrenalin kick out of her routine.
But now, the peace of God sounds like the greatest thrill imaginable!
Yes, it’s difficult to pray and give thanks and surrender...every moment of every day.
But it’s 100x harder to live as Anxiety Girl!
In yesterday’s blog post, I pointed out that anxiety and gratitude can not co-exist.
Mindy elaborated “When I am anxious I am focusing on me. When I’m thankful, I am focusing on Jesus. When I’m focusing on Jesus, my anxiety disappears. How cool is that?”
Directions that truly transcend all human understanding:

{Gratitude --->  [Peace = Guarded (heart + mind)]} Christ Jesus.
The map for our bus ride from Anxiety to Contentment.
I’m on board!

How about you?
Try this today:  Watch for situations in which you feel the urge to guard your heart with complaining+. (1) Pray, (2) Give Thanks, (3) Surrender the urge, and (4) Experience His Peace.
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  • responding to today’s blog, and/or
  • sharing your Day #1-27 experience of replacing “baditude” with God’s word and gratitude, and/or
  • about anything else on your heart!
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