Showing posts with label self-care. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self-care. Show all posts

One Word Wednesday: Month 1


Reflecting on January, I initially wondered if my word — “cherished” — had made any real difference. It was an unusually challenging month, one I feel like I just barely survived. Did I make anyone feel cherished? I don’t know. Was I keenly aware of how much God cherishes me? Oh, how I’d love to say “Absolutely! Every moment of every day!” But that would be a serious alteration of truth.

I was ready to declare January a “cherished” failure when I remembered three seemingly unrelated events:

1) I started physical therapy in January. A year ago, I quit training for a marathon relay team because of severe pain in my left leg. As the months passed, the pain worsened, to the point that just sitting was excruciatingly painful. I chalked it up to aging.

But, as my father is fond of saying, “she who self-diagnoses has a fool for a patient and a fool for a doctor.” My highly-qualified physical therapist introduced me to my IT band, and then I introduced my IT band to an extra-firm foam roller…several times a day for a month!

I’m now pain-free and ready to run again!

My focus on “cherished” encouraged me to initiate self-care now…rather than waiting another unnecessary long, painful year!

2) Ever since I bought my laptop, I’ve noticed that the screen makes images look washed out. I heard that this is a common problem, I tried to re-calibrate the screen without success, so I just got used to it.

Unexpectedly, a few weeks ago I noticed that images on my screen suddenly looked normal! The harsh glare was gone, and I could see intricate shadings and details I’d not seen in the three years I’ve had this computer.

Then, last week, normalcy vanished and the old washed-out look returned. I started to resign myself to getting used to it again…but made a Genius Bar appointment instead. If my MacBook Pro screen could work correctly once, perhaps they could figure out how to make it work again!

Sure enough, my appointment lasted less than 3 minutes. One setting needed to be changed, and the seagulls in my website header became visible again, as did the ship captain’s wheel further down.
Before...and After!

Was this a life-or-death situation? Of course not! But I feel like my focus on “cherished” motivated me to take action toward improvement rather than settling for “good enough.”

3) A woman I’ve known for about a year asked if we could get together and talk about the similar season of life we’re both in. I agreed and then spent the next few days celebrating, “She wants to be my friend! She wants to be my friend!”

I know, I know — with my history of BFF disasters, I need to be careful. She didn’t volunteer to carry all my Anxiety Girl issues; she just asked if we could get together for coffee.

But even as I take note of my own red flags, I still think my focus on “cherished” is making me more open to give and receive friendship.

So, what common thread — if any! — connects these three events?

I think it’s “yes.”

As in “Yes, I’ll call and schedule the PT appointment. Yes, I’ll do my exercises three times a day (five times if necessary!) until I feel better so that I can say ‘yes‘ to running again.”

Yes, it’s worth the time and effort to take in my laptop to see if by any chance they say ‘yes‘ they can help me.”

Yes, I’d like to get to know you better and offer what support I can as you’re going thru stuff I understand.”

Did I spend January actively and intentionally focusing on “cherished”?

No.

But did “cherished” focus me in January?

Without a doubt: yes!

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No Mask Needed


Tomorrow, I leave for the She Speaks Conference. Thanks to the amazing women of Proverbs 31 Ministries, my experience of preparing for this conference has been unlike any other.
I’ve been to many writers’ and speakers’ conferences. 

Some emphasized having our pitches and proposals perfectly prepared and polished. Others urged proper outer appearance, resulting in multiple shopping trips to find just the right outfits and–of course!–matching shoes. 
In the weeks and days leading up to each one, I’d stay up later and later each night, working harder and harder to be “ready.” By my departure date, I was always sick, grouchy, and beating up on myself for everything I’d failed to do.
She Speaks has been so different! 
“Spend far more time in prayer than any other form of preparation,” we’ve been urged from the start. And this isn’t just talk; Sheila prayed for me over the phone when I called to tell her my publisher appointment preferences!
“Don’t go shopping for new clothes!” we’ve been told. “Pull from your closets and borrow from friends.”  There’s even a huge clothing swap happening the first night, with leftovers going to a women’s shelter!
“Start in scripture and let God speak; don’t go looking for verses to support what you think you’re going to say.” This advice was especially hard for me to take, as it meant tossing out several great ideas and spending months with no idea what I was going to do for my 5-minute evaluation talk!
Until last Thursday morning, that is, when I was re-reading a Bible story I’ve taught, preached on, and written about. Sure enough, the Holy Spirit has been waiting all along to show me something totally new that I’m so excited to share!
What does any of this have to do with “taking off the mask”? 
Simply this: I feel safe.
For once, I’m not preparing out of fear. 
I’m not trying to be someone I’m not or even pretending to be more than I am.
I’m going to be my get-it-done Choleric + fun-loving Sanguine self.
No mask needed!


Your Turn:

Have you ever prepared for an event out of fear rather than anticipation? What external causes led to the fear?

Have you ever prepared for an event at which you knew you'd feel safe and be able to be yourself? What made you feel this way?