Monday, April 30, 2012

Warm-Up Day 9: Becoming a New PURSE-on


A few highlights before our final Warm-Up Week blog:

1) Give-Away drawing for  Kay Warren’s Dangerous Surrender ends soon! All comments April 22-30 will be entered and one name drawn on May 1st.

2)  In case you missed the video at the end of Warm-Up Day #8, here’s the link:  http://youtu.be/iu9Y7huYScg

3)  The feedback some of you have sent via e-mail and Facebook is such a blessing to me! With permission, I’d like to share this from Laura Luyt:
I just was prompted to send you a quick email as I was just skimming through  your eBook [Top Ten Priceless Gifts That Don’t Cost a Dime for Each PURSE-onality] about the 4 personalities.
I don't even know if you'll get this, but I just have to say THANK YOU.

Thank you for explaining them... although I cannot figure out which one I am (I seem to be all of them!) but reading  through the GIFTS for each type... it. has. me. in. tears.
I am eager to read on and learn more, and begin to study each of my children, myself, my husband, and learn to give them the gifts that mean something important to them. WHAT A GIFT! To learn what really means something to them in their language, and then gift it to them. THANK YOU.
Tears, I tell you! Spilling down. Washing. Exciting and promising.
Bless you.
I am blessed to hear that something I’ve shared is making a difference! Really, that’s what The PURSE-onality Challenge (and life!) is all about. My dad used to tell me that “sharing the gospel is simply one beggar telling another beggar where he found food.” 
One day, early in our marriage, Daniel was sitting on the floor in front of me, massaging my feet, while I was giving him a neck rub. My neck was absolutely killing me, and all the effort he was putting into my feet seemed like such a waste! 
Suddenly it occurred to me to ask him, “Would you prefer a foot massage?” And he tentatively asked me, “Would you rather have a neck rub?” We laughed, switched places, and soon we both felt wonderful.
We’d each been giving gifts we wanted to receive, which was natural and even sweet. But neither of us received a real gift until we switched places and got what we truly needed. Over time, if we’d kept up this habit, we would have both felt unappreciated and misunderstood. 
Romans 12:18 says “as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” The better I understand each PURSE-son’s “gift language,” the more fully I can do the part that depends on me to live at peace.

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Now, back to our regularly-scheduled blogging! 
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For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
2 Corinthians 10:3-5
Since the real deal (finally!) starts tomorrow, I thought I’d share the nitty-gritty of what The PURSE-onality Challenge looks and sounds like for me. 

Step 1:  My husband walks into the kitchen while I’m working on a blog post. I can’t get the font sizing to work right, so I start griping out loud, “What on earth are are you doing?” 
Daniel, ever the gentleman, asks me, “What are you trying to do?” to which I feel the urge to snap, “Nothing! I wasn’t talking to you!” (While thinking None of your business! I don’t need your help! Quit trying to solve my problems!)
Since the Holy Spirit has recently pointed out that I start complaining aloud within 10 seconds of Daniel entering the kitchen, I own my problem by switching my bracelet from one wrist to the other. I surrender my font frustration to God: Lord, I'm frustrated and feel like taking it out on Daniel. Take this from me. I don't want it in my heart or coming out my mouth. And I say nothing aloud to Daniel.

Step 2:  I pull out my PURSE-onality “gift card” (yes, even though I've been learning and teaching this for 30 years, when I'm upset, I need my cue card!) and spotlight a strength Daniel brings to my life: analysis.
Step 3: I open scripture, pull out a Bible verse card, or recall from memory,
Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again, Rejoice!” (Philippians 4:4), 
intentionally replacing my “baditude” with God’s word. 
Step 4: I choose thoughts of gratitude for a husband who loves to analyze and solve problems. I grab my journal and write a few lines: 
  • Today I’m praying...that Daniel feel my appreciation of his analytical abilities.
  • Today I’m watching for...an opportunity to thank Daniel for the ways he blesses me with his gift of analysis.
  • Today I’m appreciating...all the times Daniel has analyzed my computer and brought it back from the grave!
Q:  So, Cheri, do you step through these perfectly every time?  
A:  Oh, puh-leaze. 
Q:  Do you feel super spiritual as you move into Step 1? (or at least by Step 4?) 
A:  Mmmm, not so much.
Q:  Then what does happen for you as you go through these steps over and over again?
A:  Over time, I’ve noticed that

  • I’m becoming more open to the Holy Spirit’s leading as he shows me ways in which I am “waging war as the world does” (my habits of complaining, criticism, gossip, and sarcasm!)
  • I’m becoming more intentional about seeking “divine power to demolish strongholds” (reaching for God’s word)
  • I’m sensing myself growing and seeing my relationships improving as I “take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” (stopping “baditude” and, instead, thinking gratitude)



Q4U 

Leave a comment to be entered into this week's drawing for a copy of Dangerous Surrender: What Happens When You Say "Yes" to God by Kay Warren!

  • What does 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 say to you today?
  • What questions do you have as we prepare to start The PURSE-onality Challenge?
  • What else has God laid on your heart as you've read this?


    The PURSE-onality Challenge31 days of replacing "baditude" with God's Word and Gratitude! 

    Click here for more details!





    Warm-Up Week, Day 1:  What's Wrong With It?

    Warm-Up Week, Day 2:  The Heart and Mouth Connection

    Warm-Up Week, Day 4:  Complaining vs. Problem-Solving


    Warm-Up Week, Day 6:  Fixating on Weaknesses

    Warm-Up Week, Day 7:  Spotlighting Strengths

    Warm-Up Week, Day 8:  Cleaning Out These PURSE-onalities 


    Sunday, April 29, 2012

    Warm-Up Day 8: Cleaning Out These PURSE-onalities!

    Everything–and I do mean everything–connected with that old way of life has to go. It's rotten through and through. 
    Get rid of it!   Ephesians 4:22 (The Message)
    We’ve seen how fixating on other people’s weaknesses leads to accusation and contempt. When we spotlight strengths, we learn acceptance and compassion.

    No Excuses for Bad Behavior
    But let's be clear: the PURSE-onalities are not intended to help us gloss over bad behavior! 


    It’s not okay to excuse our own weaknesses by saying,

    • “Oh, I’m a Sanguine, so I can’t help that I talk all the time!”
    • “I’m bossy because I’m a Choleric; just deal with it!”
    • “As a Melancholy, I’m naturally critical; don’t take it personally.”
    • “I can't handle conflict; I’m a Phlegmatic.”
    Jesus Christ lived the strengths of all four personalities and the weaknesses of none. Our goal is to become more like Jesus, not more like our worst selves!
    Time to Toss the Trash
    When we give the Holy Spirit permission, he will expose our “rotten through-and-through” weaknesses. 


    Once we’re aware of them, we give them over to God 
    and then take on an entirely new way of life–a God-fashioned life, a life renewed from the inside and working itself into your conduct as God accurately reproduces his character in you.
    Ephesians 4:23-24
    I just saw that my fabulous friend Kathi Lipp is doing several funtastic give-aways for National Clean Out Your Purse Day on May 15.


    And it occurred to me that The PURSE-onality Challenge is really “Clean Out Your PURSE-onality Month”!  
    In May, we will daily (hourly...minutely...) ask the Holy Spirit to check our spirits (or, in my case, whack me upside the head!) whenever we complain, criticize, gossip, and/or use sarcasm. 
    Each time we recognize “rotten” words, phrases, habits, tones of voice, gestures, we'll have a choice:

    Cling to them, and carry around a PURSE-onality full of trash.

    Toss the trash to God, making room for His new life in us.


    What Will You Clean Out of Your PURSE-onality?



    (If you do not see an embedded video, click here to view.)


    Q4U 

    Leave a comment to be entered into this week's drawing for a copy of Dangerous Surrender: What Happens When You Say "Yes" to God by Kay Warren!

    • What does Ephesians 4:22-24 say to you today?
    • What are you ready to clean out of your PURSE-onality in May?
    • What else has God laid on your heart as you've read this?


      The PURSE-onality Challenge31 days of replacing "baditude" with God's Word and Gratitude! 

      Click here for more details!





      Warm-Up Week, Day 1:  What's Wrong With It?

      Warm-Up Week, Day 2:  The Heart and Mouth Connection

      Warm-Up Week, Day 4:  Complaining vs. Problem-Solving


      Warm-Up Week, Day 6:  Fixating on Weaknesses

      Warm-Up Week, Day 7:  Spotlighting Strengths

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